Thankfulness

"Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ."
Ephesians 5:20

Now how can I not give thanks always for something like that?

Our study in Ephesians has taken us to the passage above. It is so easy to be thankful for the things that make us happy or comfortable. I never have to be pressed to say that I am thankful for the 12 grandchildren that God has blessed us with. I am thankful!

But then he had to go and mess things up.
We read the whole verse!

Be thankful always.
Okay. I'm always thankful for my grandchildren. And my children. And my home.

Am I really?
Do I GIVE thanks?
Always?

...and for everything.
EVERYTHING?


That's what it says....everything.
Hmm.....

The pastor went on to point out 3 areas in which we are to give thanks in everything:

Give thanks for the good things in life.

Okay, that's easy enough.

Give thanks for those things that God is going to give in the future.

One thing he mentioned was to give thanks for dying grace.
I can do that!

Give thanks for the trials of life.

Some of the things he mentioned were financial problems, health problems,problems with friends and family.

Wait just a minute!

I must say that the greatest times of growth in my life are those times when God is stretching me by giving me trials. My tendency is to beg Him to release me from the trials, when His divine will may be to carry me through them.

Okay, Lord, I get the message.
Can we just go on to another passage?

Thank you for being my listening ear and caring friend,
Gloria

A City Without Walls

"A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls."
Proverbs 25:28

When our children were small I directed a children's musical for our church.

One of the songs went like this:

"Self control--it's just controlling yourself.
It's listening to your heart and doing what is smart.
Self-control is the very best way to be, so use a little self-control."

In some things that is so effortless. I can use perfect self-control with alcohol, drugs, bad language, any many other things. But then there is food! I find myself often like "a city broken into and left without walls."

How can that be?

I have often said that food is my thorn in the flesh. Although it has much to do with the flesh, I think that it is not a thorn; I just let my walls fall down. I can do all things through Christ who pours the power into me. (Phil.4:13), and yet I cannot use self-control in the area of food? How disgraceful!

So what do I do about this?

I call it WW (you know, like AA). I am a lifetime member of Weight Watchers, so when I see that my walls are broken down and I am defenseless, I go for help. Something in me rebels against this, because I feel that I should not need this crutch. But the Proverb says, "Where there is no guidance a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety." v.14

I run for safety

I am presently rebuilding my walls with a combination of prayer and counselors. I only have a few pounds to lose. I'm not so concerned about that as I am self-control. I want to please God, to keep my city intact.

Is your city intact?

Thanks for reading my blog
Gloria

What Proverbs Do For Me

"Take away the dross from the silver, and the smith has material for a vessel."
Proverbs 25:4

Do you ever feel as though you are in a boiling pot and can't figure out why?

God seems to have a way of throwing us into whatever situations are necessary in order to make us into what He wants us to be. I want to be free of the dross that keeps me from being fit for the Smith, but I don't want to go through the refining process to get there.

It hurts!

And I can't understand the "why" of so many things that happen in my life. It takes too long, it isn't comfortable, and I just don't like discomfort!

Oh, well...

It does seem that my Heavenly Smith is going to do it anyway, and I do want to be that fit vessel. But I'm just ready to get to the "fit" part.

Now!

Do you ever feel that you are always being refined and yet never quite get there? I guess that the saying, "Please be patient, God is not finished with me yet" is quite applicable to my life.

So please, be patient........

I'm glad you read my blog!
Gloria

A Lesson for the Children--Big and Small!

This is the speed bump in front of our house. Its effectiveness is deceptive in this picture, but it is NOT a good idea to go over it at more than 15 miles per hour. For many years there was no speed bump; we all complained that folks were speeding on our street, and one was put in. A very useless one. I think that people sped up to go over it! (It is incredible to think that people can drive 60 mph on a one block street.)

This winter the road was repaved, and the men began to work on another bump. My not-so-shy husband went out and asked them to put up a more effective one. And boy, did they! Now drivers try to speed over it, and thump! Their cars hit the road with a bang.

So what does that have to do with blogging? My dh and I were having a discussion this morning about the spiritual significance of road bumps and obedience. It seems that just knowing to do what's right doesn't often cause one to do what's right. We may know what God's law says, but our tendency is to disobey until we are stopped somehow. A small road bump may come along, and the first time we encounter it, we might slow down on the track to disobedience. But then we begin to feel like we can plow through that one. It becomes a little easier to just speed up and sin through it than to slow down and obey!

But what a great Constable we serve! The next time we try to speed through disobedience, He may have, unbeknown to us, constructed a bigger bump on the road of sin. This time plowing through it has major consequences.

We have 2 choices: either slow down and listen to the voice of the Master or ignore the warning signs and pay the consequences.

I don't like the idea of paying the consequences. One young man on a motorcycle was badly hurt when he ignored the signs near our house. You know, if we would just obey the law there would be no need for warning signs.

Thanks for reading my musings.
Gloria

A Model for Your Children to Follow

Last weekend my 3 girls and I, along with a special friend went to a conference in Dallas featuring

Sally Clarkson (http://www.wholeheart.org/.)

It was a wonderful time of fellowship with the girls and a very encouraging time of reflection for me and looking ahead for the girls. You see, it was really a Mom's conference. My girls asked me to go with them, and I figured that since I live with 4 little girls and help with home schooling, I may as well go and hear what they hear. What spoke to me was not necessarily what spoke to them, seeing that I am in a different season of life. But one thing that gave me cause for reflection was a question that Sally asked:

"What are 5 adjectives that describe who you want to become?"

1. An organized woman. I never feel very organized, and I really do want to be an organized woman. It's just that there are so many distractions.

2. An overcoming woman. Do you ever feel that you are a sinking ship? The Scripture says that we are more than overcomers through Him who loved us. Romans 8:37

3. A joyful woman. John 15:10-11 says, "If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete." In order to be joyful, I must obey my Father.

4. A passionate woman. I want to be passionate in all my endeavors as I seek to be the wife, mother and grandmother that God wants me to be.

5. A tenacious woman. I want to be a "no quitter" when it comes to things of importance.

Sally Clarkson said that our spirit is an example to others--how we walk with God is a model for our children to follow. Hopefully we will model righteously.

What are 5 adjectives that describe who you want to be? I would love to know.

Opportunities for correction

Today, we too rarely practice good manners...
When we neglect to require our children to say "thank you" when someone gives them a gift or does something for them, we are raising ungrateful children who are highly unlikely to be happy. Without gratitude, happiness is a rare thing. With gratitude, the odds go up dramatically that happiness will be the result.

Zig Ziglar

Moms, have you ever wondered why you give your children gifts? How many times have you gone to great effort, only to be rewarded with something like, "Why didn't I get that one?"

My daughter set a beautiful Valentine's table last night, candlelight and all, bought little gifts--and one rather nice one--for the girls. I must preface this by saying that these are precious little girls and usually quite appreciative of things. But maybe the Valentine candy from 2 Valentine parties and Sunday School brought out the worst in them. Who knows? I think it's called "sin nature."

Some of them were definitely NOT appreciative. So what happens in an instance like this?

I guess there are numerous solutions:

1. Scream at them and tell them they are unappreciative brats! (There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18)

2. Jerk the gifts out of their hands and tell them that you will never give them a gift again as long as you or they live--and at this point it might not be very long for either of you! (see above verse)

3. Go to your room and cry, thinking that you are an utter failure in rearing children. (I can't think of a verse for this one.)

4. Try to use it as an opportunity for correction and discipline--but how?
a. Send them to their rooms for the rest of the night.
b. Make them work to pay for the items they did not appreciate.
c. Take the items away from them.
d. Apply the rod of education to the seat of learning. (Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction will drive it far from him. Proverbs 22:15)
e. Talk, talk, talk. (Know this, my beloved [sisters], let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger, for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness that God requires." James 1:19-20)

I thought my daughter used some pretty good teaching tools last night, although she might not. She did talk to the older girls, helping them to understand that complaining that the article of clothing didn't fit was unappreciative and asking, "How could that have been different?" It doesn't take too much discipline for children who have already been taught to be gracious.

The younger one showed much less gratefulness and was properly disciplined. (I do have to say that my daughter came into the kitchen and exclaimed--away from the child, of course--that she was being a real brat! And she was. But things changed!

DON'T GIVE UP, MOMS. Line upon line, precept upon precept. Bringing up children is a real challenge, exhausting, time consuming, and often frustrating and seemingly unrewarding. But in time, by your loving discipline and God's wondrous grace and mercy, you will have the pleasure of enjoying those adult children as best friends. I do, and I am so very thankful.

My girls, my BEST FRIENDS

A good word for your children:

"Even a child makes himself known by his acts, by whether his conduct is pure and upright." Proverbs 20:11

Keep up the hard work!
Love,
Gloria

Oh Happpy Day of Love!

Isn't this a fun Valentine mantle? These are all things that we have around the house and were pulled together in various places to make the happy day of love an enjoyable one. This is the first serious decorating for Valentine's Day that we have ever done, and we have loved having it around!

Our "Love Bug" (her middle name is Love--really) painted this for us.
I just Love it--and her!

I liked the blue necklace draped on the Eiffel Tower, but my designer daughter didn't. So it was removed.

On the kitchen counter. We like birds!

Our little pianist has been looking at this decor.

Notice the touches of Paris? We love Paris!

A little bit of glue, scrapbook paper and computer printing.

The lantern belonged to great granddad.

The dining room table

I wish that you could all come to visit. We could have a cup of tea and some of my daughter's homemade fresh bread or cinnamon rolls and just talk about life. We may get snowed in tomorrow, and if so, you probably wouldn't want to be here unless you like the noise of four little girls talking all at once. I do--most of the time.

Happy Valentine's Day with love,
Gloria

I'm linking to Rednesday at
http://suelovescherries.blogspot.com/2011/02/rednesday-with-cath.html